Is this cake eating? 9

[bustingout]

Hi NLW....(((( )))) my gosh...this is an awful and unfortunate post re: H.

I agree that it is good you did not get involved. I understand about being strangely calm as well. Sometimes we can do that...a strength comes that we didn't know we had..almost protecting ourselves from ourselves.

My H too believes that me and the kids will feel better with a D. He told me even my 'mental state' will be better (???) he said if it doesn't happen than my relationship with him will be bad but when it does happen it will be good. So all in all, me the kids and him will be wonderful after a divorce. We just don't know it yet apparently.....Sign me up!

So I am telling you this because it seems once again that this is common behavior. Denial. repression. resentment. I am not saying that because i am trying to instill hope or anything. I am saying it because these are patterns of something that really have nothing to do with you. Its all him.

Now fortunately you can rationalize that, but your kids cannot/should not. SO maybe IC is the best choice for them.

i have to go now...but I am thinking about you and i love you.