H kept insisting that they go with him. They kept saying No.
This is extremely poor behavior on your H's part. Your kids are old enough to make themselves heard, so you did the right thing in staying out of it.
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Apparently he then told them that he and i were definitely getting divorced and that he had "met someone new".
What a completely immature way of handling that. He should have approached you first and discussed with you how to discuss it with the kids, and you BOTH should have talked to them.
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Apparently he also told them that "Everything will be better for me and mummy when we're divorced".
Unbelievable. So now he can read your mind, and he feels free to tell your kids how you feel. He really is in another world.
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S14 cried and D16 refused to look at her dad (working on Facebook throughout).
I hope it sinks in what he's doing to the family. If he thinks his actions are making things BETTER for anyone except himself then he is seriously deluded.
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Then later "PLease tell me how you feel"
Strange that he didn't seem to care about that when S14 was crying in front of him. I guess texting allows him to throw it over the wall instead of dealing with the reality of it.
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Does anyone have any words of wisdom about any of this?
I'm worried about the kids. How do you deal with your dad announcing that he has another woman???
First I think you did the right thing in not inserting yourself into the middle of it. That would have just given H a reason to blame it all on you. Second, as the others have said you might consider IC for the kids. I went through D as a young teen and up until BD I always told everyone it was the most traumatic experience in my life, and one that I've never forgotten the pain of. Don't underestimate the negative impact this has on kids, it's devastating.
