best and worse thing to ever go through

[Grocerykartman]

Eyes,

Like I said, I didn't write that as clear as I'd like to have written it.

What I mean is, deal with it personally, with a different perspective. Go from looking at it as

"I can't get the thought of her being with OM (out of my head (I assume you meant)) during this time"

to...

"Ok, so she's either with OM right now or at minimum the possibly exists that she is with OM right now. I can't do anything about that, plus what's already been done has already been done. I can't make her stop. So I need to look at her as someone living out a problem, someone who has made mistakes by being with OM, and someone who may very well not anytime soon quit making more of the same mistake being with OM."

You're still letting the thoughts of her with him be first and foremost on your mind, instead of essentially letting it be "old news." You're still letting it surprise you and shock you and disappoint you. Somehow, you need to move past those types of feelings and instead let your mind get to a point where you realistically (but lovingly) don't expect anything different from her.

Not that any of this is easy. It's terribly hard to get your mind to think like that. But you will at some point be able to accept this as the new reality of her life and, subsequently, yours too.