I want to go camping.

[labug]

I read this over in the MLC forum (posted by Albuquerque). It's something that her H said and I think it's a good reminder for all of us:

"You need to learn to be an individual first, and a partner second. I submit that you can't even be a good partner if you aren't a good individual. I wasn't. I lost sight of that during my vacation in crazy time. It has taken time and effort to feel comfortable with myself. I credit Albuquerque for my own ass kicking. She made it clear that she loved me and wanted to be with me, but could and would go on without me, and not blink twice at it. That was very attractive to me, in a weird kind of way. There is the old saying that "it's nice to be needed". I don't think that's true. It's nice to be wanted. By someone who doesn't need me. I hope that makes sense. "