Oh... I did think of something that might have impacted him in the past few weeks: I took an equity line on the house to pay off my car, and he signed for it--it's my loan, but he had to agree because he's on the house title.
Now, he hasn't contributed to anything in this house in a very, very long time and we'd verbally agreed a while ago that he'd give me the house in the event of a D. I have been busting my a** to keep it up all alone.
I mentioned taking a line to pay off bills to him offhand and he didn't really respond -- back when he was talking about moving back in, so I went ahead and looked into it.
When I found out I could do it, I let him know that was my plan and he seemed fine with it. So maybe he really was fine with it. Or maybe he is secretly using it to fuel the tunnel "see how selfish she is, taking things from me" mindset... and pretending it was a good idea.
He gave me the papers on the day of closing... and said 1. it made sense for me to do it, 2. he didn't have to sign for it and agree to it, and 3. he was happy to sign for it.
Yeah, you try to add those 3 comments up and get one answer!
