Quote: One thing that defines my H is that when he is trying to understand anything, the first thing he does is read all about it, books, web sites, etc. He fills himself with information and ideas and tries them out. We are so much alike in this way.
But in this sitch-- he mostly recoils at the very idea of reading and exploring books, other people's experiences, and learning from them. It's interesting. Doing that is what helped me get past being afraid.
I really can identify with that! My H is a very intellegent man, that's part of why I am attracted to him. When he puts his mind to something he can pick up things astonishingly quickly. He picked up the local language here very easily and well. He worked in computer programming years ago, self taught. He has picked up his present career direction skills on his own, etc etc etc.
But when it comes to relationships, well, a man can't change, can he???? Or even learn. Or come to a clearer understanding of things.
Why?????
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
