Avoiding any "get out of my house" actions too since the blowup Thur. The reason I say that confident, assertive, bold, leader type behavior will push her out the door is b/c for the most part, that behavior revolves around saying "no" to spending money at the moment.
I think you said you're having financial problems, so I think learning to say "no" would be advisable. The worst that could happen is that she would leave, but you tried to kick her out anyway.
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I'm really struggling to figure out her primary LL. Right now, I'd rank the 5 as: acts of service, words of affirmation, gifts, quality time, touch.
Get her to take the quiz. Women love quizzes, my W did it even though we were on the verge of S.
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I wrote out a couple checks for her Tue night and in the memo area I put loan, she freaked.
Here's the proper alpha response- remove the check from her hand, tear it up and throw it away. No need to argue about it, just let your actions speak. The loan is for her, you receive no benefit from it at all, don't allow her to browbeat you because you wrote a word on the memo line.
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She then got emotional, just about crying, asking how if I care about her can I embarress her so much.
She's manipulating you big time. What is embarrassing about a memo on a check? Who is going to see it other than a bank teller, and does she think they give a darn? The real issue here seems to be that she didn't want any written evidence that it was a loan because she knows it can be used against her in court to get the money back. Seems like she has an ulterior motive here.
