Try not to let his "black cloud" affect you. Learning to control your emotions is a valuable tool, not only in your marriage. I remind myself every day, "YOU are in control of how you feel. NOONE else can change my feelings."

Happiness, contentment, acceptance... They're all a choice.

When I get worked up I remind myself, "this too shall pass.". Anyone who's ever quit smoking knows the battle. The emotion and struggle becomes overwhelming and all consuming. But it passes. "This too shall pass. I am in control of how I feel."

M34 W35
S5 S2
T10 M6
on/off over the years including her A
Recently-
Nov 2015 bomb
Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling
Feb bomb
March-April Reconciling
May - bomb
Mid-May I tell her I'm done