Thank you for coming back and sharing some of your h's comments w/us.
Your journey has been a long one, but you've been patient and have given him time and space to do the necessary work to heal. He's got a ways to go, but he's "baking up nicely". I'd rather see him move slowly than too fast during the last leg of his journey.
Please take care of yourself and continue to be patient. He really is trying to recover from his crisis and hopefully it won't be too much longer.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.