Hi wonder ... been a while since the last time I dropped by.
Wonder, I too, had stated that if CAW was to leave to pursue a R with OM, that I don't believe I could be just friends with her, but I was determined to continue to be there for her until that line was actually crossed and fortunately, she never did cross it. I'm sorry you are having to face the possiblitliy of being put in that position.
Quote: I suspect there is big OW withdrawal and grief and I get the sense my H does NOT think he should feel that... because then there must be something wrong with us if those feelings take a while to dissipate.
This is great insight and one I can see now that CAW probably shares. I'm gonna have to give this some more thought.
I'm sorry to hear H decided to move forward with D-papers. I hope he will be willing to respond to your email and offers some insight as to why he made the choice. As SS mentioned, some WAS's see the D as closure on the old R in order to be able to move on and proceed with a whole new R with the LBS that may lead to a better M in the future. Not saying its right or wrong ... or better or not, just its the approach they believe works for them.
