Quote: What he often does is open up a topic (I am afraid that it will fall apart again.) and then not go any deeper but go around in circles with it.
I KNOW my H has done so much thinking and feeling about things, but it seems as if he does it over and over with the same ideas, digging the same grooves deeper, instead of letting in any new ideas and possibilities.
Our WAS are identical in this trait! How do we break this stalemate? It seems they are doing this intentionally to make excuses to not try somthing different.
Quote: One thing that defines my H is that when he is trying to understand anything, the first thing he does is read all about it, books, web sites, etc. He fills himself with information and ideas and tries them out. We are so much alike in this way.
I wish my WAS was like this, instead she jumps head first without looking into the pool and hopes nothing is there. Always rushing and trying to jam a square peg in a round hole.
Quote: But in this sitch-- he mostly recoils at the very idea of reading and exploring books, other people's experiences, and learning from them. It's interesting. Doing that is what helped me get past being afraid.
Another similarity for us, she is definitely like this. I share your views as well, thats what got me over the hump. But how do you communicate this to someone who isn't WILLING to listen with an OPEN heart and mind?
I guess if we knew, none of us would be here. I'm going to ask my C these and see if he has any bright ideas.
