Quote: Can you point me to a link that would go this far back? I would like to learn from what you had done then.
Well... you see, don't clap too hard for me yet... I wasn't posting during this much of this time (foolish me). My first thread (Advice Needed, think D is Coming) started when he started to withdraw again after moving out of OWs the 1st time in Aug.
Quote: I somehow have hope the intelligent people we married will look deep within themselves and find the strength to give us the opportunity.
Me too!! And give themselves the opportunity as well. My H also tells me I'm strong... you'd think that would be a good selling point.
Quote: Sounds like you've have a WAS that is willing to communicate, do you think he would actually discuss those fears with you?
Not sure. He goes up and down with the communication. What he often does is open up a topic (I am afraid that it will fall apart again.) and then not go any deeper but go around in circles with it.
I KNOW my H has done so much thinking and feeling about things, but it seems as if he does it over and over with the same ideas, digging the same grooves deeper, instead of letting in any new ideas and possibilities.
One thing that defines my H is that when he is trying to understand anything, the first thing he does is read all about it, books, web sites, etc. He fills himself with information and ideas and tries them out. We are so much alike in this way.
But in this sitch-- he mostly recoils at the very idea of reading and exploring books, other people's experiences, and learning from them. It's interesting. Doing that is what helped me get past being afraid.
wonder
p.s. to Azure-- looks like we are just happening women of technology. Aren't we just amazing?
