But back to my D11 and my D6. My D6 was really quiet when I picked her up from school on the last day she had with me...the teacher asked me to find out what was bothering her because she spent the whole day in the safe area- a place that she has set up if a child needs to get away- and seemed sad about something.
That's a bad indication. Have you considered counseling for you and the kids?
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I guess the dilemma I have is that I am trying to stay away from my W and give her space but my D11 and D6 are doing everything to get me to stop by or come by and see me..I don't want to detach from them but at the same time what do I do...
The kids ALWAYS come first. Detaching takes a back seat to the kids' needs. As I mentioned in the last post, if the situation isn't working for the kids then it needs to change. My W and I are also doing weekly splits, but W comes to my house every day to get them ready for school on my weeks and I pick them up every day from school on her weeks, so they see both of us every day even if just briefly. Your schedule is clearly not working for the kids, so change it. Maybe you need to do shorter splits, or add a day in the middle as I mentioned earlier. My brother has been doing a 3-2-2 split with his XW for years and they feel it works well.
