Therapy tonight, she said she wanted a divorce, I said I didn't,she said she was afraid of what I may do if she did file for divorce, I told her not to worry, I was working on myself and that I understood that i couldn't have an outcome in mind, that I was doing it for me no matter what the outcome. some pressure was relieved.
Your first post was about 6 weeks ago, was that around when BD was? If so then you are very early in the process still. It is quite common for D talk to get thrown around a lot early on and then suddenly dropped and not talked about again for months if at all. If she brings it up then you might suggest taking things one step at a time. Separation should always precede D. Once S happens, the pressure to D is greatly diminished and it usually goes on the back burner.
