best and worse thing to ever go through

[Grocerykartman]

but I know I need these four days as much as she does.

Yes! What are you doing these four days? It's the weekend you know. What are your plans? Tell us all about them.

Can't get the thought of her being with OM during this time. My only consolation is something I read about about rebound R's, in that it likely won't last based on her not taking the time to deal with our r.

I repeat, what are you up to this weekend?? For you?

Next, to truly answer this part of your post, here's what I think. Right now I think you are still, at least somewhat, mentally living in the "this all must be a bad dream" chapter of the book. In other words, I get the feeling you are still asking yourself "Is this REALLY happening to me?"


So there's a page I think you need to do your best to turn here, hard as it may seem. Rather than dreading and cringing at the thought of her being with OM, I think you need to look at it as the new reality of your life. The new reality of your life is that at worst, her extracurriculars with OM are going on, and at best, her extracurriculars with OM MAY be going on, anytime she's not with you. Try to mentally establish all this as a FACT instead of a WORRY. Because you cannot worry this stuff away. You have to treat it instead as reality.

I'm having some trouble writing this as well as I'd like to, but I what I really mean is instead of looking at it like "I cannot get the thought of her being with OM (out of my head) at this time", I think you need to look at it as: "Ok, she might be with OM now. Gotta face it and accept that possibility as fact. What am I going to do next to deal with it?" I think the key is dealing with it instead of worrying about it.

Oh and one more thing, what are you doing for YOU this weekend?

Would a "hey, thinking about you, hope you have a good weekend" text be appropriate?

Why do you feel the urge to text this?