I have two competing thoughts and impressions. On one hand, I think there's value to what the guys are saying about how you are interpreting her decent behavior or niceness, as progress AND you are probably enabling her to not rely on OM for much. There is an upside to you being there for him instead of OM
but there's also a chance for OM to fail her, which you may be preventing.
OTOH
I also sense actual signs of confusion on her end. Like she IS second guessing her choices. Too many of her comments suggest serious reconsideration and it does not seem ALL like it's just her being nice to you. Is it progress or confusion?
Well, for a lot of us, seeing confusion in the WAS means something.
That's a good thing.
But you're right NOT to jump at that. Take it slow, stay detached as best you can. Let her make a clear choice to reconcile or at least to piece.
Let her make the move.
But don't "wait" for her. If she keeps on rambling with her regrets, and you wonder if she's sending out a signal, ASK her where she's going with it. Not b/c you are jumping at the chance for a recon, but b/c you're not clear (if you aren't).
Nothing wrong with telling her YOU are not sure what YOU want now, b/c things are different.
That's not punitive or a game. It's real b/c you said you don't know how you feel about her right now. That's just a result of this ordeal/journey.
Kudos to you for not forgetting your own work too. Keep it up.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
