I apologize for being a little behind, but what have you done or are you doing to change you? Your wife loved you enough to marry you...why did she fall for you then and what is different now? These are the things you have to explore...for me I started taking myself and life in general way to seriously and forgot to smile and have fun. I forgot to be her friend first....and perhaps most importantly I didnt bother to ask her how she wanted to be loved. I dont know if I read it here or elsewhere b/c i've read so many things in the last few months but this statement made such a profound impact on me........the golden rule says to do unto others as you would have them do unto you....but thats not how it works in marriage....you have to do unto others the way they want to be done unto.
I hope that makes sense....I kind of butchered it I think but it makes sense in my head. LOL The point is that I tried to love my wife the way that I wanted to be loved.....my love languages if you will are words of affirmation and affection so its a huge deal to me for someone to say 'I love you' to me...so I made sure that I always said I love you to her multiple times daily....problem is her love language is more in tune with acts of service....doing something to lighten her burden if you will...and I didnt do that at all. Anyway, just something else to think about because as much as your focus is on 'getting your wife back' if you don't use this time to delve into the why's and how's then it won't matter in the long run because you'll end up in the same situation again down the road.
^^^^^^^This is powerful Carnac, well said. Not tonight, but I need to put more thought into this.
