My M can be saved, but I need your help/advice!!!

[chatterbug]

Jack that is why we always push for LBS to DB and learn it. Get that space to GAL and rebuild self esteem so they can enforce their boundaries.

Tough-Love. As we say " Fake it until you..."

One of the beautiful things that come out of walking away after dropping the counter-bomb speech is that you get out of there when your emotions will take over.

This is the very first time the LBS stands up and says. Hello. I actually would like a say in this marriage. As we know it becomes a foundation for self esteem and the ability to realize that they control their life.

When I gave my speech I was not ready for it. But it set in motion what I felt. What I thought. What I wanted to get to. So I worked towards that boundary. Did ladybug know this.... Perhaps, but I think the Walk Away Wife with the soft landing thinks the LBS is incapable of having any spine or self respect. So it really does not matter if he falters within a week of this speech. Cause it is just more par for the course.

But if he can fake it. Keep quiet. Act it. See that his wife is willing to harm him after he said that he does not want that in his life. That can give him the strength to detach and GAL.

At least the option is there.

Also it begins to create crisis in the WAS life. As they will start to wonder if the LBS actually had enough.

And if they are on a soft landing exit... Then it does not matter anyways...