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I agree with ss, I can't imagine going through that. I think counseling is a must, at least for your children. I think as difficult as it is, as adults we are better equipped to handle our sitches. Personally I don't want my children to grow up any faster than they have to. My children are young enough that they haven't really asked anything, but if they were older I don't think I would have the answers, since I am still wrapping my head around it. I think it would be good that they have someone equipped to help them through this. And as cold as your husband seems, I think if you could get him there it would be a big help. Just my 2 cents.

I wish you all the best!