what a horrible experience for you and your kids to go through. the only good thing about it is now it's out in the open. you can stop dancing around it and call it what it is.
i hope you are able to get counseling for yourself and your kids. at least, you can move forward.
your H will find out how much this will damage his relationships with the kids. he's hoping it will all work out but deep in their hearts, they will never forgive him for this.
((((NLW))))
M:63 H:53 S:41, SS:28, SS:25, SD:23 M:15 T:16
Bomb:12/17/11, "I think we should go our separate ways." H moves to his mother's house, 4/1/12 12/21/12: H moves back home, piecing