The crack in my perfect life...

[Sweetbriar]

Venting....so I mentioned last night in my post about the kids going to see H for dinner and some of the things he said to them. When he dropped them off, he mentioned it and I said out loud that we are all getting old and thats what happens. D then said to him that she just noticed his grey in his goatee. Well, I knew this would affect him and he ended up texting D today and saying that he didnt appreciate it. Well, she said to him that I(mom) had thought so too, and so he texted me and this is what I received...

"So, you're talking about what I look like in front of the kids? Out of bounds! They're not your stupid girlfriends...you simply do not get to talk s**t about me to them"

I was floored!! I have not been talking about him to them at all and had only advised D last night that it was okay that she had said that and it was her observation and I had noticed that dad looked different too. I then read the text H sent her and It was saying things like "If I talked about your mom to you, you would flip out and take her side" and he also texted that "my family disrespects me and treats me like Im a punching bag"

H is very upset about her comment from last night and instead of taking it like a man, he is totally acting like a high schooler toward his 14 yo daughter! I just don't know what to do....she apparently texted him back and said that mom and I don't talk about you and its been months since mom has said anything about you....so later I get text that says...

"She said it was said a little while ago...whatever...you are obviously their favorite"

So, I'm upset tonight. I just think that he has such low self esteem that these comments from our girls really upset him last night and he decided to attack today by saying that they don't respect him, and I'm their favorite. I did NOT respond..should I? I just didn't think he last text to me warranted a response....

The thing is, I feel like this stuff just upsets him and pushes him farthar away even though I didn't do anything to make it happen. If I do respond, it wont go anywhere...so I'm sure he is sitting at his parents, and thinking how terrible we all are and that we are disrespectful and we are sitting at our home talking about him. (totally ludacris...)

I also feel like this is stuff that will never allow him to return home because he feels unloved here...even by his kids.

Its not about favorites, but honestly, its been hard for the kids to completely be normal around him and respect him after the things he has done. This has NOTHING to do with me, but what they have seen and experienced these past months. Its hard to respect someone who is not giving any respect to anyone in return...even for his own kids...

I will be made out the bad guy in all of this for sure. That Im telling them things and putting things in their heads...I have heard it all before...

UGGGG.....