WOW! You've started quite a rich discussion, here, Wonder!!!

I like Seattle's options and I too believe option #2 or 3 is best in your sitch. That is what I have been trying to do too.......

I struggle with two things:
1. what does it REALLY look like to be "friends" with someone you once shared a bed, a home and a life with??

Like, do you talk every day (too much...) every other day...once a week, once a month??? Etc........

Do you really call every time you are thinking of the person (like you would with other friends...) or only when you have really thought it out. Do you play it cool and just return their calls?? Hmmmmmm...lots to think about..I just don't get it!!!

2. Why do I get the feeling that H is AFRAID to be around me too much? Does he not want to get too close to me or let his guard down?? Any one get that feeling from their WAS??

Wonder, I just don't understand how your H can go from no D to giving you papers. Can his fear of going back to the way things were really be that strong??

I think you are doing a great job of showing him your changes and making those changes for YOU!!!!


Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)