I do feel like I am in a hellish place right now. Ive been going through this stage where I really miss my W, more then usual. I will work through it though, someway, somehow--- ----- I used to receive brief texts and emails from W and those have stopped. Enough of this for now because there’s no need to have the focus on W. It’s just something I’ve noticed, that’s all. ------
I'am becoming as nervous as a hooker in church when replying to W’s texts, especially after AT’s recent posts. [/b]
Rough, look at this^^^!!! Your words & thoughts and feelings are all over the place. Whatever she says or does NOT say, or does not text...OMG learn to detach...each emotion passes by, you grip it and hold onto it til the next one stops by. Know this----- Where the head goes, the heart will follow.
Which means you have to Start thinking straight.
You're obsessing, you sound so pre-occupied I cannot imagine how you are concentrating at work or with the children...are you "there" for them? IS it really fair for you to keep going this way and Not get any help?
Please, settle down. Remember another quote of YOURS here...
I need to remember that life's to short and we can't predict the future. I need to make the most of what I've got, easier said than done sometimes. ---- Well said! THAT^^^^ Is your mantra!...Make it yours - b/c the words are!
Yes, my words, thoughts and feelings are all over the place 25. My head goes to “what should I do now mode.” It’s not a healthy way of thinking, I just care a lot and all of this is very important to me. So I should acknoledge what W says and then let it pass. What I am doing is letting this consume me, not healthy.
Head/Heart? Things are chaotic for me right now, does that mean chaotic love? If I open myself up, share my honest feelings with someone then my heart will show honesty, my heart will follow? I am trying to understand that one.
Learn to detach?? Part of me thinks that I wouldn't be on this forum if I was fully detached. I started to detach for a while but it hasn't been the case lately.
The last couple weeks have been even harder then normal. Yes, I need to settle down but you have to understand that my W’s been torturing me recently, it’s a bunch of bs!!!! She’s not trying to but I am letting her get the best of me. I've worked really hard to prepare myself to talk with my W and the feedback that all of you have provided helped a lot. I am getting new communication tools from some of my friends on this forum. I haven't used them much with W but it’s good to know they are in my arsenal and I intend to implement and use them for the rest of my life.
Yes, concentrating at work can be difficult at times and I need to focus more. In terms of my kids, I am an awesome dad, I can say it with confidence. I've always been there for my kids and they are the top priority. We have a lot of fun together and I constantly work with them to be the best they can be. My W, family and friends all know I am a good dad.
Well said???? Do I need to get my vision checked? Is that coming from 25 The fake it till you make it manta is very true. I need to tell myself that I am going to have a great day, that I can do this. All of us are on borrowed time and a lot of the time I take it for granted.
The fake it till you make it manta is very true. I need to tell myself that I am going to have a great day, that I can do this. All of us are on borrowed time and a lot of the time I take it for granted.
