Told some more friends about my situation today. Feels quite weird to see how blindsided they get, and at the same time it's nice to see people care and give support.
We changed our R status also. I got the feeling she was almost kinda offended by me not getting upset or angry. Gotta say though, it's quite tragic how serious we treat facebook nowadays. I even got the "it's over? but you're still in a R on facebook?" by a colleague. Should I defriend her on this web page?
The guy she was flirting with is "liking" pics of our son. Probably to woo her. This had me <censored> off badly at first. Couple years ago I would probably call her and throw a tantrum. Lately though I've managed to "stop, reflect, consider". Basically asking myself "does it matter? does it change anything significant?" Well, no. Ignore, move on.
She told me before breaking up that I seemed to get controlling again. I've been reflecting on that statement, and I guess it's true. I hate losing control! I practice a couple different extreme sports, and here the feeling of letting go of control is exciting but the real joy I find in being in control of the situation.
I feel that during this break up I managed to let go of control and except what ensues as out of my control. Either this is improvement, or just another way for me to stay in control(by choosing not to react). I don't know?
Together for 8,5 years. S2 Interest in OM. She left 29.09.12 b/c we couldn't work things out. No signs of OM, not digging. Living in seperate homes, sharing custody.
