Now you are a volun-told husband. On one persons notice when it is convenient for her and on her needs. Minus the benefits of a healthy relationship.
I wonder how long she would listen to you calling her and talking about your financial, immigration, raising a child as basically a single parent, adultery and its health ramifications. Asking for stuff with no heads up. Asking her to support your transformation and support you in what you need to do to make you happy..... mention random problems and expect her to solve them for you.
How long do you think she would listen to you?
See the point a few of us is trying to get across to you is that you were fired as a husband.
Let her experience that choice and let her have the freedom to decide if she actually misses you in that role. Let her have the chance to see if she would like to be your wife down the road again in a marriage that is equal. Some where along the line the concept changed from Our happiness and well being to her happiness and well being. You have placed yourself in a position where if she came back tomorrow you would be back in the exact same spot when ever she feels you no longer fuel her happiness.
Harsh.
You bet.
This is what you are teaching her with your actions.
You have mistaken her niceness for progress in your relationship.
You can be a loving , friendly , respectful, detached father of D8 with healthy boundaries and a tough love stance towards the adultery.
Why not try it for a month or two and see what happens?
