I think you did great by not staying on the phone long and not sharing every detail. If you can not talk about the relationship when you do get there, you will be miles ahead. And when he brings up the relanionship, and he will eventually, validate his feelings. Even though you may want to argue and blame. The first time you are able to do that you will feel so darn amazing. Don't give him any conflict with you. Let him get in his own head and sort himself out.
Mean while, you are sorting yourself out. I'm sure others on here will come along and ask you some questions.
Have a nice day. Breath!
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