Arsene... You know, Chatter's advice can be hard to hear sometimes (I know I struggle with the hard-line stance he takes on occasion) but I think it's at least worth considering here.
Now, you don't have to be combative about it... And Chatter talks in VERY DIRECT ways which work for some but not for others. Some need more sugar coating...
But that doesn't mean his concepts should be dismissed outright.
His first example of not being comfortable is not combative at ALL. It's simply stating a fact, setting or enforcing a PERSONAL boundary, and making a statement. Might it have upset her? Yeah, but you're not in the business of "Not upsetting her" anymore... You're in the business of improving YOU and working toward a renewed M!
Now his second sentence was much more "direct", but you don't have to use it word for word if you're not comfortable and would rather remove a bit of the edge.
For instance, instead of "No. I have decided that I will not do that", and with the knowledge that she could have gotten it from any of her friends anyway, why not just ask her if there's someone else she could get it from? It's not as strong a statement, but it still gets the point across.
