The problem is that they are trying to meet up BEFORE we go and this I will not/can't let happen for my own mental health, and the purposes of keeping them apart while W and I spend time together. I am going to try and eliminate this from happening, enjoy the trip then "drop the hammer" once we get back.
How are you going to stop it without reverting back to old bad habits, without looking controling, obsessive, possesive or like a stalker?
If they do meet, when they do meet does that mean the trip doesn't happen? Does she know this? If she doesn't woul dthis reaction be old habit?
The trip itself is a problem.
The trip isn't going to magically fix everything, it won't wake her up, and I think your pinning this hope on the trip being this magic bullet that does wake her up.
A two week trip...hell a 4 week trip isn't long enough to prove to her that you have changed for good.
That trip, if what I said is remotely true, if you have attached some sort of unrealistic goal to it, the trip is setting you up to fail. When it doesn't work out your anger will take over and that will be ok because you tried and the trip didn't work.
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