So the point I am taking so long to get to is that, Heather, OW is not getting anything better than you, though it may seem like it now because she "has" H and you don't. She has Mr. High, Mr. Damaged.
This helps. I've lived with him in active addiction and it's not pretty. He is the world's biggest A$$--in fact that's generally how I know he's using again.
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So Heather, what is the OW? She is going after a married guy with a substance abuse issue...man, she sounds like a high quality, moral person that you should envy....NOT!!!!! Those facts alone put her beneath you. This is not about you, a total rejection of you, though H may say it is. This is about him, and he is "affairing down" because he needs someone more f*-ed up than he is to feel something good about himself.
This helps too. Luckily, he made it painfully obvious that he's affairing down. Helps some. She is really icky skanky and sad.
Haven't tried to contact him in 8 days!!! My record is 10!
Thanks to all for the loving support. It means so much right now. I promise to pay it forward when this passes. Funny how complete strangers can make life so much easier!
Much Love, Heather
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