Now Separated, Am I doing the right things?

[Arsene]

Hey mate,

As Carnac said, 25 is on your case and that is good. Listen to her, no matter how much it hurts sometimes. It's forced me to get through a lot of the macho sh1t we grew up with and believe is a part of being a man.

Bottom line here, this is the woman you love and even if at times you can't see it, or forget it or even stop believing it for a bit, your being here tells us that much. From that perspective, any negative thoughts or judgement we have about them should be questioned. With every word or thought I have I ask myself if this is done out of love. Not an easy task but it is helping me towards something I want to reach almost as much as Reconciliation, that is forgiveness.

Carnac himself is making excellent points and this here below, is solid gold IMO.

But I will give you a piece of advice to hopefully make things a bit easier while you wait on this conversation about which you know very little......whatever you are doing right now, this conversation shouldnt change anything. Good or bad, the goal here is to be doing things in YOUR life so that whatever this conversation is it doesn't matter.....and to me the reason it doesn't matter is b/c even if she says I want a D, does that really change anything. My belief all along in my sitch is even if she files I intend to love her through it and if it goes all the way you really still have the option of loving her as long as you want...assuming its not unhealthy....take back that much control for yourself....that at the very least YOU get to decide when YOUR done no matter what she says.

Take care of yourself mate.