Seriously, I made a commitment to myself early on that I would not "survive", but would keep using my experience as best I could to grow, learn and become stronger.
I figured this was the best way to improve my relationship with ME and also with my H.
So, I keep a list of things I have accomplished and ways I have grown since my S. This motivates me a good deal because I feel like I have made progress, tackled fears, accomplished things, etc.
