Don't ya just want to say to him to get a new tune? I mean can't they be a bit more imaginitive when it comes to reason to follow this course of action than repeating the same things (which as your C said, no longer exist)???? I just don't get it!
I never did send H the first chapter of DR. Didn't need to, he ended up coming to that conclusion on his own after reading 'the road less travelled'. I don't know that it would have made much difference had his mind been made up and it was only going to be my last ditch effort.
I think that you're detaching well, it's only these unexpected things that throw ya, but they throw us all!
Please let yourself be open to opportunities, which you can do and yet leave the door open to your H a crack. Let him see what life will be like without you in it and see how he likes it! You deserve so much more than this treatment. If he doesn't realise what he is giving up, then he is an idiot and not worth you.
Sorry, feeling very cynical today. I just get sick of the whole thing and wish that these fools could wake up and smell the coffee or at least work with what they have rather than idealise some thing that just isn't true. As the saying goes 'Better the devil you know!'.
I know there is fear in facing a future that wasn't what you expected, but there is also opportunity. It is up to us to grasp this opportunity and make it work for us, play the cards we're dealt and all that.
