How would you like to be different in your next relationship ? (which can be with your current spouse)
Twisted, you come across as very defensive...something that you said was a problem for you in your marriage...
Then you said that you were different now...
How so ???
Is your argument better ?
Are you defending with a different strategy ?
How important is it for you, to be right ?
From what I have read from you ?
I see you as a guy, who is on the cusp of losing everything that he didn't value, until he was faced with losing it. I see a guy who is beyond remorseful, and who will do anything to achieve that.
I see a guy who is carrying around a huge bucket of guilt for the things that he could have done better, and is willing to defend the person that he is NOW, against who he was then.
I see a guy that extremely guilt driven. Whose actions are all coming from guilt. And his guilt is driving him to become something that he is not prepared to follow through with in the long run.
I see a guy who is willing to scream from the mountaintops that he is different, without providing any depth to back that up.....yet.
I see a guy who uses words to his advantage, to talk his way out of any situation. A guy who says...."well, you just don't understand" , instead of letting his actions speak for him.
I see a guy who wants to be different, yet applies just enough to get the desired results..
I see a guy, who can do anything that he chooses to do....
If any of this is untrue, please correct me....
Read back through your threads...and you tell me what advice you deflected, and what advice you ignored, defended yourself, and created a diversion, instead of reflecting it internally, and seeing how it could have helped you.
One of my favorite quotes ....
I remind myself of this daily...
"Seek to understand, and then you will be understood"
What does that mean to you ???
BTW...
Thank you for explaining the situation with your Son...
