Keep breathing...

[mamabird]

I really changed it up tonight. Foot rub instead of a back rub. Woo hoo! Does that count as a 180?

Also, I have my H's agreement to pull my younger son out of therapy (with therapist's agreement too) so now we can use that money for MC. Question is - will he follow through now that the dust has settled and he's not feeling so traumatized about almost filing? I want to try a therapy called EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) - has anyone tried that? I hear it's great for couples who have "attachment injuries".

Finally, I tested the waters a bit regarding his birthday in 2 weeks. My kids are sleeping over at their grandparents' this weekend so that means H and I have a free evening. I told H, "I'm going to see Argo on Saturday if you'd like to come." He said no thanks (as expected). Truth be told, I already invited a friend pretty much knowing he'd say no.

Although I have a dinner reservation made for his birthday and my parents have agreed to babysitting should we need it, I will probably suggest a family dinner either in or out. I had thought about giving him the option to go out as a couple, but it might be pressuring, so I may just drop it altogether and stick on the safe side. On the other hand, he does like to have a fuss made over him, but my gut tells me it's too much too soon.

I will probably make him a cake though. One of his big complaints is that I've never done that for him. Of course, he never told me that he wanted a cake or anything special, he just complained bitterly that I never did it. One time on his birthday I brought home individual slices of cake because I couldn't find a small one. They were all different - I thought that it would be nice if everyone could have what they wanted. He was so offended by this - he still brings it up as a "clueless" thing that I did.