It is possible it hasn't been enough time. You have become a wonderful husband, fulfiling the roles, and making the changes she has requested- but just under one year ago and just a little late in timing for her (the high school reunion and texting challenges.) She hasn't had a chance to see how you have grown and changed. Most likely she is perceiving your changes as a way to get your needs met- to get her back in the marriage role she assumed for 25years. And, like most WAS, she is distracted by her new experiences. Do not believe everything she says despite the poignancy of the words.
Keep growing, changing, and being positive. Your emptiness is not illogical and is natural. Letting the love die is a reasonable defense from ongoing longing and hurting. Don't let the love die in defense. Nurture yourself by taking good care of yourself and maintaining a postive mental attitude. She needs time and space to take a look at you without her old perspective. And a 25year marriage builds up a lot of "perspective." More space makes it easy to see how you are now truly changed, different and loving.
