Sometimes we work right next to each other for a while. It is really awkward not saying anything at all to her. Should I keep it that way or just throw out some pleasantries? If I have mail for her should I tell her or wait till she asks me about it?
Another tough thing is that all of my friends are also her fiends and coworkers. She doesnt want anyone to know that we are separated so it is hard to hang out with them when the conversation eventually gets around to where is your wife and why are you going out so much without her.
I agree with Starsky, treat her in a friendly manner, be polite and always show a positive mental attitude when you're around her even if you're talking to someone else or just in the same area. It's hard at first, but keep at it and it'll become your "new normal". Try to remember what you were like back when ya'll started dating and make yourself into that guy. A lot of people think detachment means becoming cold and distant, but that is not it at all. We're supposed to LOVINGLY detach. That means giving her space and not contacting her much, but if she contacts you or if you're face-to-face then by all means be friendly and available. If she talks then you listen. If she expresses emotions then you validate. Don't try to fix her problems. Don't bring up the M.
