And, congratulations that your H is responding in your love langugage. Try to remember that in sex, your brain is releasing the same neurochemicals active in drug and alchohol highs. It is powerful stuff! (Only much better for your body.)
Enjoy the good feelings, but keep your head about you. Let these good moments fuel your GAL activities and let them be moments for him to desire more. Transfer all that postive energy you get from the experience to your work, your self-care, and your PMA.
If you find you can't handle the on and off of intimacy, then cut it off. Don't keep hurting yourself. Maintain your boundaries- if you are working, you cannot "play" though you may want to. Do you want the cat? You are right to focus on your life, your resposibilities, and what you need.
Most likely he is trying to figure out what he wants and is reconnecting to experience the good chemistry and relating you two have. Keep it postive, but also keep yourself emotionally safe. This is very tough to do. Our tendency is to focus so much on getting back together that not only do we smother our S with attention and demands, we bury our own hurt and leave ourselves open for more. You have experienced a lot of hurt in this process. Go slow in the relationship and trust rebuilding, continue not to pressure and be watchful.
Again, stay focused on your PMA and GAL'ing. It seems to be working!
Do you want the cat? You are right to focus on your life, your resposibilities, and what you need.
