It's interesting that family and friends have suggested that you don't give up. In my case it's the opposite. I hear nothing since all I used to hear was to give up hope.
I'm not one to criticize you visiting MIL. I'm the same. I check up on her once in a while, although lately I also find myself detaching from her as well we H. Interesting isn't it?
Yes that is interesting. I can see myself doing the same thing, the longer we're separated. Especially since I live 4 hours away. The thought of that suddenly made me sad. Just as I finally feel like a part of the family, BD happens. *sigh*