It's interesting that family and friends have suggested that you don't give up. In my case it's the opposite. I hear nothing since all I used to hear was to give up hope.

I'm not one to criticize you visiting MIL. I'm the same. I check up on her once in a while, although lately I also find myself detaching from her as well we H. Interesting isn't it?

M 42 H 39
T10 (-2yrs separation)
S8 D5
DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA)
Reconciled 6/2013
Separation in works 1/2017