Here we go again...

[leopoldstotch]

SG all I can tell you is what my experience was and it made me angry and hurt. Now I told you above how I spied on my W. Well at the time I was working for a contractor and I had my own work truck. My W works until 5 and I was done @ 3 so what I would do was I would park the truck near her workplace and I would look for our car once I found it I knew where to hide. So I would sit in my work truck until she would be done then I would hide and wait to see if I could see anything.

I forget how many times I did this but one day we had an argument on the phone while she was at work and I was hiding around the corner. Come time for her to leave work guess who I spot in my car with my W consoling her. All I saw was the dirtbag rubbing the back of my W's head and let me tell you it was all I could stand. I came unglued. I was so pissed off and hurt at the same time. It tool every ounce of fiber in me not to try to climb the fence and go after him. IIRC I may have called my buddy and he calmed me down but I confronted her when she got home since I beat her home.

She couldn't believe that I was there but that was my proof that she was cheating and she could no longer deny it. Let me tell you it was unbelievably tense in our for quite a long time after that because she wasn't done with the A. My gut told me she was still seeing this creep. May have been a few days later I got my buddy to go down to her work with me in his mini van and we sat in it with binoculars waiting on her to leave work. We saw both of them walk out together and follow each other most of the way home. She had to turn off at a certain point to go pick up our S and the creep went his way home. Well I was waiting for her when she got home and I chewed her out like she has never been chewed out before. The look on her face was priceless but again I was left angry and hurt but something inside me told me it was time to bust this A wide open.

I had lost a lot of self respect when I had a feeling she was cheating but something made me want to see it for real. Seeing it for real also woke me up to stop being a doormat and get some dignity back. I remember telling myself after seeing what I did that I needed to bust this A up and that's when I told her parents and her boss. I wasn't going to just sit by and play the victim and just accept her A and hope she grew out of it. My personal belief is is that a S won't stop until the other one makes a stand. When my W told me the creep was fired Im not gonna lie, I FELT GREAT! I knew then and there that I broke that A up!. Funny how all the late nights and happy hours stopped.

What you decide to do SG is up to you but keep in mind that I took a big risk doing what I did and I was angry and hurt but I gained my self respect and confidence back. It took a long time to get over the pain but I do not regret it one bit. I would do it again if need be.

I hope this helps you to sort things out bud. Just be careful and be aware of what you are getting yourself into.