Still together but trying to save this

[PeteWyo]

Yes. That is what you need to decide.

And yeah, get rid of the little loving nicknames for now. Let her initiate contact, keep your responses short and to the point.

Denver, thank you so much for the advice. I told myself from the beginning that I believed in marriage, for better or worse. So for now I have the resolve to see this through.

I do have a curiosity about your story. As I said I read most of your posts. Am I correct in understanding that you and your W do not have a child together? I only ask because in a lot of the success stories on the forums that I read, reconciliation happens or is at least affected by the children in the equation. I wonder sometimes if it does hurt my chances that we do not have any children together. Maybe that makes it easier for her to cut ties. I know that is complete speculation and we aren't supposed to be trying to be mind readers. It was just something that I was thinking about. It is tough to get all of these thoughts out of my head no matter how hard I detach and GAL, which is going well by the way. I have supportive friends and family that I am reconnnecting with in the way I should have been for the last 3 years. Ironic that it took my wife leaving me to see the value in building and nurturing ALL of my relationships. next trip to the IC tomorrow to work on my anxiety some more. I think I am doing well so far. Still a lot of work to be done. I will update when I can.