You’re absolutely right, I needed to take a deep breath and relax. W sure has strung me a long with all this “we need to talk” stuff. I can’t say I care for it much but I can deal with it. Thank you for helping me to better understand her email.
I see a confused W, she cares but also thinks she wants a divorce, W understands the consequences and ramifications involved. She probably realizes how many lives will be affected by this decision. All things considered, this isn't a huge shocker because I receive a text from W a couple months ago and she wanted a divorce back then, which nicely leads to my next point.
Hope. I understand the difference between hope and false hope. Denver, you made a comment several months ago that I haven’t forgotten. You told me that during your sitch you witnessed W’s emotions, good or bad. As long as you saw an ounce of emotion you felt there was a fighting chance, maybe you knew the fire wasn’t out so to speak. While the two sitches are different, I think a lot of what I just mentioned still applies. AT’s right, hope is such a personal thing. There’s a lot of ambiguity. Bottom line, hope or no hope, I still have hope.
In terms of “back burner” I already replied to W’s email and I pretty much used Denver’s exact words so it’s water under the bridge. The format is very eloquent and I found it to be extremely helpful!!! Thank you for the verbiage Denver. __________________________ Me:38 W:43 Together: 15 Married: 11 D:5 S:8 W wanted separation 5/5/12 Stopped living together 5/5/12
“Don't lose your grip on the dreams of the past. You must fight just to keep them alive”
