Quote: I truly believe that one day (it may be years from now...) we will all experience our spouses either trying to come back or admitting they blew it!
I agree. But this is also what amazes me about my sitch. My H DID that. And not once.
Quote: I don't think the WAS would truely have started down the road to leaving the M, if they were not sure.
B, my H has told me he was never really sure. He was very confused and in a lot of pain and did not know what to do.
He has also told me several times that he wishes he had never done any of this, that his life fell apart the day he moved out. Maybe some of them think they know --and I think they are all deeply hurting -- but don't let pessimism cloud too much. I don't think many are so certain. Now he says he has gone back and forth (clearly true).
seattle, I think the train wreck will come too. My C said that too and asked me if I thought H needed to crash before he would see it himself. Though I think she's a train wreck all on her own... (ok, that wasn't nice, but all the evidence points there).
You're dead on about H feeling he could have done it differently and not been where he is. He says that. He said a few times if he would have anything at all it would be to go back in time before it ever happened and erase everything. Now to this, I think, well here is the real opportunity to leave it behind and erase it.
I am so glad I don't have a WAS brain right now. It must feel awful.
So... next steps for me. I'm working on this...
Good news, I have an opportunity to land an exciting project coming up in 2 weeks... very excited for my new business!
