Thank you Wendylon, Tori and Veroprado for coming by. Your words help alot to remain focused on DBing.
Question - why do you want me to be dimmer, Wendylon? Am i too available?
Quick update as I have just come from my first Spanish class - GAL I've wanted to learn it for ages (already speak French) so finally I booked a course.
Anyways I had sent H the pics earlier last night and then when I went to bed, I text night as usual.
Later he text "Looking good, Tumbling :)" (3) I replied immediately (why can't I sit on my hands?) "I think so too!" (4) He text "night night x" (2) I didn't reply as I had already said that earlier
This morning he text "Good morning Tumbling x" (3)* I wrote the same 30mins later
*That is different - there have been no morning texts for weeks. Don't know what that means, if anything. It was nice to get it, as not expected.
Don't know whether to text "good night" as I am soon to bed. But I don't like being the initiator and it sets expectations of an answer. Decided I will reply if he sends me one, if I'm not asleep.
Musing Next week it will be the anniversary of his ex's death which was the catalyst for him leaving last year (2nd time) after only being home 6wks. I don't know how to acknowledge it, if he brings it up. I'm concerned it might trigger some kind of response in him which will mean he detaches from me. He doesn't usually remember significant dates but he might remember that?
I remember him saying that he felt bad that they never made friends after splitting up and he never got to say sorry for treating her the way he did when they were together (which was similar to treatment of me) i.e. once together stopped spending time with her, ignored her needs, unable to communicate feelings, when she challenged him, he felt bad etc
Any ideas of how to prepare for that?
ME41 H39 T12 M9 Ilybinilwy 10/2010 H moves out 11/2010 H moves in 09/2011 out 11/2011 Try to fix it alone, give up 07/2012 Tumbling to file 02/01/2013 :-) "Strong on the inside, soft on the outside"
