Pausing before giving the hug, made it feel "right."
Arsene, thanks for compliment, and my kids keep me going for me. 8)
Tori, no known appts with IC yet. Per a previous post, I wouldn't try to schedule for her, but do what I can to make sure she can freely go keep appts. The IC she selected from my short list specializes with victims of abuse (approx 15yrs of experience i think she said); and encourages her patients to "don't do anything drastic" = don't just divorce.
Also, I stumbled upon a new improved list of links from Cadet in the MLC section that i'm "researching" in order to better make my POA. The big difficulty seems to be digesting / processing / putting it all together. "Piecing it for myself" 8)