Still together but trying to save this

[PeteWyo]

Our decision to stand for our marriage is one that we make for us. It is a decision that you have to make independent of what she is doing or the choices that she is making.

You are right Denver, of course. So I guess the real thing that I need to figure out at this point is what I want to do. I have read much of your threads and your story is inspiring. I'm just not sure I have enough in the tank to go through this for 18 months.

Text message update. I may have made an error in judgement, maybe not you tell me. She sent me a text message regarding something regarding her sister and some issues that she has been having, don't want to get into that here. I didn't respond, mostly because I really was busy at work but also I need to get out of the habit of replying so quickly. So she text me again later that night and said

"I didn't mean to tell you what to do, I just wanted to give you a heads up."

I responded with,

"Oh I know babe, sorry just been swamped. What do you think we can do about it?"

I got no response at all to that. I probably shouldn't have thrown the "babe" in there, just habit I guess. Two days later she sent me a text saying "How r ur parents doing?".

She has always had a good relationship with my parents. I believe she probably feels more regret about letting them down than me. I haven't responded yet...