Hello! 20 year marriage teetering on the brink...

[AnotherStander]

Absolutely part of the script.

Would you mind expanding on that, are you saying the menopause is a contributing factor in this or are you saying she'll say things like this as an "excuse" for her behavior?

And she will become the OPPOSITE of who she was in the past until this is over.

So far she hasn't been drastically different in any respects other than her attitude about the M. But maybe this is just the beginning. Man, I sure hope not! It's also possible that the A/D's she's on are buffering the worst of it.

I am not sure that you doing anything different is going to change her.

Thanks, point taken

Put her in the hands of a higher power and let go because it is out of your control.

I spend a ton of time praying over this. Mostly I pray for patience because as I've said over and over again, I don't have a lot!