All this I guess shows goodwill from her side, but also makes me question why that is. Maybe guilt? Or maybe she just cares for our son and my R with him.
I doubt it's guilt, she probably just wants it to go as smoothly as possible.
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In our previous on-off(lasted a couple weeks), years ago, she still seeked sporadic physical R with me. Now, at least lately, she is like a friend seeking nothing physical. Only thing I notice is that on occasion she kinda "checks me out. To be fair I keep my distance which may help build this wall between us?
She built the wall. She built it to guard her emotions. She has checked out of the relationship. Don't push any physical contact on her, it will likely just make her mad or upset. You need to keep up the detachment for yourself and to give her time and space to consider her thoughts and emotions.
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The thing I find interesting or maybe even unnerving is the fact that I'm coping this relatively good.I was expecting weeks of total depression, despair and tears. Since day two I've been sad, but haven't really shed a tear.
You're not out of the woods yet. I was in pretty good shape until about a month after BD, that's when I really plummeted and hit rock bottom. It came as a total surprise because I thought I was handling things just fine and OK with it regardless of the outcome.
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I don't know wether to doubt my true feelings for her or consider the possibility that I'm in some sort of denial. Maybe I'm currently just in a place right now where it feels easier to not fight and kinda releaving?
I think in my case I expected the BD to be short-lived and that W would turn around quickly (days or weeks). After a month it really hit me that it was going to take a long time and that there was the very real possibility that reconciliation may not happen at all. That was when the full weight of it hit me and the true grieving process began.
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I'm also a bit baffled at why she removed the jewelery I gave her, but is still as in a R with me on facebook. On the day of the breakup she said she would not change to single, but she would clear the R info.
They'll do the emotional separation one step at a time. One week they'll quit wearing the rings, next week they'll change their FB profile, next week they'll take photos down, etc.
