I had a good time being out for a few hours last night. I got up with S this morning... he was in such a happy mood!
She keeps a S-Journal by the bed. She writes in it a few times a week, the idea is to capture the moments and things S does as he grows. She knows I don't read it, as I once told her that was her book and I wouldn't want to invade her privacy. She said I could, but I declined saying it felt weird.
Last night I read the last month's entries. They included: 9/7 - I miss H. I never want to be a single mom. This isn't a walk in the park. (I was on one of two 5 day work trips I do each year) 9/25 - Did project around house. "heart" my little family 9/30 - H hid about 10 boxes of candy around the house. So funny to keep randomly finding them. "heart"
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You all got me chewing on the possibility of there being an OM. I now think there could be: *There's a guy at work that she stopped mentioning as much. He was a mentor of sorts. *She went on a business trip for three days, about 5 days prior to dropping the bomb. I asked her to send me the flight/hotel info. She got defensive and said I've never asked for that before when she travels. I told her I worry more these days, especially with S. She never sent it to me. *She did some "grooming" stating it was because she knew I liked it. But it was a little more stubbly at that time, so it was done earlier. *The suspected OM wasn't at her one work happy hour that I was invited to recently. *The suspected OM most likely would also have been on her business trip. *When we had issues 6 months ago.. she came home drunk one night. She had been out with work people. She told me "people are assholes" and wouldn't elaborate. That was about the time she started turning back towards us. *She recently had an all-day work outing. She didn't come home until very late and didn't communicate with me at all. She said it was because her phone died and offered to prove it to me.
I'm debating ways to dig into this. Intel. The game changes if there's an OM. Thoughts?
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done