I'm getting more and more confused...if I assert myself then she's walking out the door and if I don't I'm being taken advantage of...
From my previous post:
"Alpha is all about being confident, assertive, bold and being a leader."
What about that kind of behavior would drive her out the door? Remember, we're not talking about crazy yelling/ screaming/ "get out of my house" behavior which is NOT alpha. We're talking about quiet confidence, strength, leadership.
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So I'm trying to take a cue from 5LL that I need to fill up her love tank.
What is her primary LL? What are you doing to meet that? Are you also filling her tank through the other languages? You need to be more specific in setting up your action plan rather than just saying "I need to fill up her love tank."
I don't understand the loan. She's in your house and you're paying all the bills and she doesn't contribute anything. What bills does she need a loan for? If it's something personal- medical bills, old loans, etc. I would not give her a loan. You've expressed that you're already in financial trouble, why would you loan much-needed money to her for stuff that has nothing to do with you? You've got to quit doing these favors for her, you and I both know you're doing it because you have expectations that it will make your R better. It won't.
